More Summer Vacation....
Continuing with the summer vacation theme, mine has begun. And for the first time in twenty some years, I’m spending it alone. Time stretches before me and don’t think I don’t love it!
My kids were small when I got my teaching job—my son was 1 and my daughter was 3. I spent summers with them while my husband worked long hours at the mine. He would leave at 5:00 a.m. and get home at 7:00 p.m. On a good night. All the house and yard stuff was my domain. As was child care. Writing suffered, but I still got some writing in. But mainly I sewed, because I could do it in fits and starts while the kids were occupied for nanoseconds elsewhere. Those summers I concentrated on being a mom.
Then my husband went from geology into education himself and he had summers off with me. The kids were 6 and 8. We’d moved to our isolated house in the middle of the desert. At this point, my parents decided they wanted the kids to go to Montana and stay with them--all summer. Every summer. So from then on, my husband and I spent our summer together, alone. We didn’t accomplish much, due to the heat. Clothing was optional for eleven weeks. And then the kids would come home, school would start, and back to the grind.
And now my husband is going back into geology for the summers. He left today on his first day on the job, and I’m alone. Alone. As I will be for the next eleven weeks, not counting weekends. There is so much I plan on doing and I have to admit…I love being a haus frau. The only part I really, really dislike is being responsible for the cooking again. Now, I’m a good cook, and I like cooking every now and then, but Gary took over the cooking and the shopping when I sold my first book so that I could write. It’s hard stepping into his culinary shoes—because he’s good in the kitchen (and elsewhere.) I’m not whining (much) because the pluses far outweigh the minuses. My daughter even said she thinks time apart will make us appreciate each other more. If so, I’d better string up the trapeze.




















Enjoy your summer vacation.
Enjoy your summer vacation. It sounds like a great opportunity to use the alone time to really get in touch with that quiet part of yourself you may not get a chance to indulge often enough. Sometimes in the midst of the bustle and craziness of our everyday schedules it's harder to find the muse when you need to write. But there's nothing like some quiet time. I know that whenever I have the chance to have some uninterruptd alone time, I can write my deepest, most emotional scenes.
J.K. Coi
Immortals To Die For
www.jkcoi.com
J.K., you've put into words
J.K., you've put into words exactly what I'd unconsciously planned to do--get in touch with the quiet side. Already the pages I've been writing seem to have more depth--probably because I'm not squeezing them in between other things. That's doable, but this is sooo nice.
It sounds perfect!!
I'm oozing jealousy, Jeannie!! It sounds heavenly! My kids have another week left of school, but my schedule won't change all that much come summer vacation. I'll still be heading off to work while my husband gets to pack lunches and bring them to camp. Today is my day off from work; I work 9-hour days and get one day off every two weeks. It was supposed to be my day to get the bulk of my revisions done for my last WIP, but since my husband is also home...well, let's just say I'm not being very productive. Enjoy your alone time!!
I find it so hard to get
I find it so hard to get things done when Gary's home. The kids are easier to distract, lol. Good luck on those revisions!
Home office
Mike and I have almost always been on the same schedule --we worked more or less the same hours off the same campus for years, commuted together, and then and still often work from home together, though he goes into the lab and to teach class more these days, so we really have home routines that work. When we both notice it more is when he has to travel; I don't like being home by myself day after day then, because we are so used to being each other's company.
I think because we have worked together this way for so long, we both know we can interrupt, but generally leave each other alone to work. It's gotta get done. In fact, watching him work from home was what taught me how to do it when I made the transition from teaching to writing, which really wasn't easy -- we both worked out of the university campus for years, and then we were both working from home, and it was an adjustment, but we treat most days like work days even though we're at home, because that's how it's been for years. Our challenge was the opposite -- knowing when to shut down the computers and not let work take over, because it's very easy to do when you work from home.
Sam
I have long been impressed
I have long been impressed with your work at home abilities. I am, again, easily distracted. Since I live on a generator, turning the power off really helps. I work on the laptop, but can't check email when I hit a rough spot, lol.
I know what you mean about getting used to one another's company. This is going to feel strange for a while, but I am getting pages done :)
ROFL...
So, now I have Jeannie sweating, nekkie and cooking in my head. Does anyone else call this a recipe for trouble?
I have to admit, I'm mostly jealous--about everything but the heat and the nekkieness. But then I realize how lonely I'd probably get if I were alone for longer than ten minutes. Still, wow, the idea of getting something DONE for the summer. That's just mind boggling to me!
Dee
Dee--I just thought I'd add
Dee--I just thought I'd add that a sarong is perfectly aceptable attire on clothing optional days--in fact the UPS man seems to prefer it, lol (but that's another story). One of these days all of your babies will be in school and you will get something done without a struggle. What boggles my mind is that you manage to produce books with toddlers in the house. I was not that organized. Not even close :)
I think your summer vacation
I think your summer vacation sounds great!
Thanks, Estella. I plan to
Thanks, Estella. I plan to enjoy every minute (when I'm not cooking.)
Wow!
Jeannie, since my kids are still relatively young, I can't yet imagine a quiet summer! It sounds like your summers have run the gamut and you're back on the quiet end again :) I, too, would hate having to worry about food, but on the other hand, if my husband weren't around, I'd probably survive indulging in all sorts of horrible junk that I wouldn't otherwise (hmmm... cereal for dinner, or maybe nachos, or maybe just fruit, or... wow--the freedom!) And I can't imagine the inroads I might make in my TBR...
As for being apart from your husband for such a long while, it does sound like maybe you ought to string up the trapeze in anticipation of his return ;) Enjoy, and happy writing!!
Thanks, Fedora. And I'm
Thanks, Fedora. And I'm also a horrible junk eater--or rather, I don't eat meals. I graze on whatever, whenever. :)